Parent/player meeting explain:
1) Expectations re: player commitments, purpose of team (developmental or competitive), division of playing time (earned vs divided/allocated equally), situations which would impact playing time ie. Missing practice, violating team rules or norms, injuries, exhibition vs league play etc.
2) Clearly state I want to hear about problems or issues from player. Players are expected to approach coaches if there is an issue.
3) Coaches will not discuss playing time or other players with parents.
4) When a player comes with a concern about playing time expect to be ready to answer the following 3 questions:
Tell me specific situations where you think you should have been playing.
Who do you think you should be playing more than/ who's spot do you want?
What are you willing to do to get more playing time?
Responses to there questions will generate a plan with clear goals and objectives to getting more playing time.